Body Language Society of Malaysia
Saturday, May 23, 2026
Thursday, April 23, 2026
Why We Miss Deception — The Hidden Problem Part 1
Most people believe they can tell when someone is lying. They watch closely, listen carefully, and trust their instincts. There is a quiet confidence in that belief, the sense that, with enough attention, the truth will reveal itself.
And yet, in real life, deception is missed far more often than we realize.
The problem is not that people are not paying attention. The problem is how they are paying attention.
In most conversations, people tend to separate what they see
from what they hear. Some focus on body language—facial expressions, posture,
gestures—believing that behavior reveals the truth. Others focus on
speech—tone, pauses, choice of words—believing that language holds the answer.
Both approaches feel logical. Both seem sufficient. But both are incomplete.
Deception does not present itself in neat, isolated signals. It does not wait patiently to be analyzed. It appears in brief, overlapping moments. A hesitation in speech that coincides with a tightening of the face, a confident statement delivered with a subtle physical withdrawal, a detailed explanation paired with emotional inconsistency.
These signals do not occur one after another. They occur
together, often within seconds.
And that is precisely why they are missed.
Most people observe first and listen later, or listen first
and observe later. By the time they shift their attention, the moment where
meaning existed has already passed. What remains is only a partial impression,
one that feels complete, but is not.
So they walk away confident in their judgment.
"He looked honest." OR "She sounded convincing."
But rarely do they ask the most important question: "Did what
I saw match what I heard?"
That question is where real observation begins.
In Part 2, we will look at the biggest mistake people make when trying to detect deception.
Monday, December 8, 2025
Durian Tunggal: Malaysia’s Wake-Up Call for Real Police Training Reform
When poor training turns fatal, the nation pays the price.
The killing of three civilians in Durian Tunggal, Melaka—including a 21-year-old with no criminal record—has forced Malaysia to confront a painful truth: when police officers are inadequately trained, tragedy becomes inevitable.
Police
initially claimed there was an “attack” and "self-defense". Yet a 13-minute audio
recording—captured live by the wife of one of the victims—reveals a starkly
different story. The young men are heard fully complying with police commands.
One officer orders, “duduk,” and the suspect calmly replies, “Ya bang.” There
is no shouting, no fighting, no threat—only obedience. Moments later, gunshots
erupt.
Post-mortem
reports reportedly show bullet entry angles from above—consistent with the
victims being forced to squat or kneel. If true, this directly contradicts the
police narrative and points to a catastrophic collapse of professionalism,
judgment, truth, and discipline.
This was not
merely misconduct.
This was a
failure of training.
The Real
Problem: Training, Not Just Tactics
Proper policing
requires far more than knowing how to pull a trigger. It demands emotional
control, legal understanding, communication skills, and the ability to
de-escalate conflict with confidence and clarity.
When officers
lack these competencies, they become reactive, fearful, and prone to
unnecessary and brutal force. Good training builds confidence, honesty, and discipline.
Poor training breeds insecurity—and insecurity becomes brutality, and brutality leads to lying through the teeth.
As scripture teaches: “Man shall not live on bread alone, but by every word that strengthens and enlightens the mind.”
Similarly, officers cannot rely on weapons alone—they must be nourished by discipline, knowledge, and moral grounding to develop character and integrity.
Even Tamil cinema reflects this timeless truth. The legendary MGR famously sang: “Don’t sharpen your knife… sharpen your mind.”
A reminder that
true strength comes not from weapons, but from wisdom, clarity, and training.
Another classic Tamil lyric warns: “Don’t trust your eyes—they can deceive you. Trust all your senses, especially your trained mind.”
These teachings—whether from scriptures, song, or philosophy—carry one message: The mind must be disciplined and trained above all else.
Training The Mind: The Key to Preventing Tragedy
When police
officers lack proper training of the mind, they often fall into unwise and reactionary
behaviors. Training is not merely about procedures—it is about strengthening
the human mind.
Officers must
accept a simple truth: criminals will commit crimes. The role of law
enforcement is to prevent, interrupt, and bring justice through skill and knowledge, not
emotion.
A well-trained
police officer is a thinking officer. Regular training sharpens analytical abilities,
builds confidence, and nurtures professional pride. Such officers stay one step
ahead of criminals, using knowledge, observation, and strategy to outsmart
them. They succeed with integrity, fulfilling their duty honorably.
In contrast,
untrained or poorly trained officers feel overwhelmed and insecure, fueling the dictum that an idle mind is a devil's workshop. They grow
frustrated, lose motivation, and become emotionally unstable most of the time. Feeling
threatened and lacking mental discipline, they rely on shortcuts born from
fear, anger, impatience, and helplessness.
When these
emotions dominate, some begin to justify the unjustifiable: excessive and even
lethal force against suspects they find “irritating.” This is not justice, but
uncontrolled hatred, anxiety, and desperation leading to unholy justification.
What Malaysia Must Do Now
To prevent
another tragedy like Durian Tunggal, Malaysia must urgently overhaul police
training and culture. This means:
- Implementing regular full-spectrum police trainings that include de-escalation techniques, emotional intelligence, legal procedure, and communication mastery.
- Introducing continuous retraining programs rather than one-off seminars.
- Mandating body cameras and strict evidence-handling protocols to ensure transparency.
- Establishing independent oversight bodies to end internal cover-ups and protect the integrity of investigations.
- Holding officers fully accountable for violations of law and breaches of public trust.
Durian Tunggal
must not fade into yesterday’s news. It must become the turning point that
forces Malaysia to rebuild a police force worthy of public confidence.
Malaysians deserve officers who protect—not officers who kill out of fear, frustration, or inadequate training.
By Jackson Yogarajah
Deception Detection Expert • Former Special Branch Trainer • Author of A TO Z About Body Language • Founder of the OWLS Method of Detecting Deception.
Tuesday, November 11, 2025
Tuesday, October 14, 2025
CILT International Convention 2025 in Sri Lanka
What a great experience at the CILT International Convention 2025 in Sri Lanka!
It was great connecting with professionals from around the world, exchanging ideas, stories, and insights. I also had the chance to share the second edition of my book with some interested attendees, which made the event even more special.
Grateful for the meaningful conversations and new connections made. Looking forward to seeing where these collaborations lead!
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